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Sex and Christianity?
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KR: How do people become sexual addicts? How do I know if I’m a sex addict? |
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Dr. Eric - I had a gal ask me one time if the fact that her husband can’t have an orgasm unless she is wearing black lace means he is a sexual deviant or not. I told her the key word in her question was can’t. Anytime something that should be our choice moves beyond our control we have an issue to deal with. Hey, I like black lacey stuff as much as the next guy. But whether my wife wears Victoria’s Secret or Old Navy to bed isn’t as important to a great sex life as the context of our relationship. I choose to love her regardless. My point is, the difference between an addiction and a preference is more often a matter of degree than kind. More often a matter of control or lack there-of...
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KR: How far can I go in my physical relationship before marriage? |
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Dr. Eric - This question always reminds of a guy filling out his
taxes wondering how much he can fudge the numbers before he crosses the
line and actually is lying to the IRS. Or the person who tweaks there
job resume so much that they are actually lying. Maybe we are asking
the wrong questions. It seems it is human nature to always want to get
by with as much as we can without getting into trouble. Still, I’m
married and get to have lots of sex so maybe I’m just being a bit
harsh, forgetting what it was like to be reclining on a couch with
someone, watching a romantic movie and feeling the tingle of lustful
passion beginning to resonate inside my bones…
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KR: Is masturbation harmful? Why or why not? Is masturbation “natural”? |
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Dr. Eric: Harmful to what? Harmful to the environment? Nah. Harmful to others?
Probably not. Harmful to oneself? Ah, there lies the rub. (Okay so that
was a bad pun). Depending on the generation, children have been taught
all kinds of things about masturbation. Some have been told it will
make your hands hairy. Others have been warned if you do it too often
you’ll go blind. There is even the popular threat that every time
someone masturbates God kills a kitty (I’m not making this stuff up).
Now I’m not particularly a cat fan myself, but that last one is a
theological stretch for any serious student of the Bible.
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KR: How Can I remain pure in this erotic culture? |
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Dr. Eric - Isn’t it amazing how more and more sexually saturated we
are becoming in this culture? Some argue that we are actually becoming
more and more sexually free. Through the wonder of multi-media we are
bombarded with images, sounds, and stories of sexuality. No longer are
we living in the repressed puritanical days where “chasity belts” were
common household devices....
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KR: Define "mature" sexual love? |
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Dr. Eric: My first thoughts would be that must be sex between people over the age
of 60. Taking time to ponder the question makes me wonder why you chose
the word mature, instead of healthy, wholesome, or life-giving. Perhaps
we could define it by what it is NOT—“mature” sexual love is not
immature sexual love. Immature sexual love is love that is
life-stealing not life giving...
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Dr. Eric Sandras |
Having received his PH.D. in Human Development and Family Relations from
Oregon State University , Eric Sandras is part of the next generation of
leaders whom God is using to "raise the bar" in the relationships, faith,
and life decisions of a postmodern generation. He is passionate about
family, emergent church issues, and having extra butter on his popcorn at
the movie theater.
Check out Eric's outstanding first book: Buck Naked Faith
Take off your designer, postmodern phoniness. Strip off your pretty sounding words. Get your faith naked.
Honest
and gritty, Eric Sandras encourages a generation of believers to drop
the layers of make-believe nonsense that stunts our spiritual growth.
What emerges is a positive alternative to life-crushing counterfeit
faiths many of us are trying our best to work through.
To do
this, there's no secret handshake or magic formula, but there is vision
and encouragement to take the risk and get dangerously real with God.
He exposes the naked truth: We need to dress our lives with a real
friendship with God and nothing else.
Buy 'Buck Naked Faith'
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