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KR: Define "mature" sexual love? |
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Written by Editor
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Dr. Eric: My first thoughts would be that must be sex between people over the age
of 60. Taking time to ponder the question makes me wonder why you chose
the word mature, instead of healthy, wholesome, or life-giving. Perhaps
we could define it by what it is NOT—“mature” sexual love is not
immature sexual love. Immature sexual love is love that is
life-stealing not life giving. Immature sexual love seeks to gratify
one’s own desires and not the desires of another. Immature sexual love
tends to be uni-dimensional, focused on the physical act and not on the
context of the relationship. Immature sexual love is about love…
the love of self.
Thus, mature sexual love tends to be about the love of another. Greater
love has no man than he lay down his life for another. Can the Holy
Spirit so empower our love making that it actually gives life to
another human being instead of taking something from them? Such a
relationship takes time to develop. Such a relationship takes trust and
intimacy. Such a relationship needs to “mature”.
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Dr. Eric Sandras |
Having received his PH.D. in Human Development and Family Relations from
Oregon State University , Eric Sandras is part of the next generation of
leaders whom God is using to "raise the bar" in the relationships, faith,
and life decisions of a postmodern generation. He is passionate about
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